RELATIONSHIPS with Sandy Daley: “Your Condo Does Not Impress Me Much!”

Shania Twain, one of the sexiest ladies in music, wrote a song many years ago and it remains one of my favourites to this day. “That don’t impress me much“, was co-written and recorded by Twain, and it not only became her third biggest single on the Billboard Hot 100 in the year 2000, but it also became the anthem for many strong, independent women such as myself.

I am happy to blast it on the radio at home, or in my car while driving along the streets of Toronto, oblivious to anyone staring at me as I belt out the words to this country tune. It truly is a funny sight to witness!

It is a fact that money does rule the world, and although often times money is used to control you, make you feel less than, I have always made it a point to be as independent as I possibly can. I will always have my "vex money" as we call it, especially while I am on a date. "You are not allowed to disrespect me in any way and get away with it", is another belief of mine. "Pass yu place with me, and I am out the door my friend!"

It is a fact that money does rule the world, and although often times money is used to control you, make you feel less than, I have always made it a point to be as independent as I possibly can. I will always have my “vex money” as we call it, especially while I am on a date. “You are not allowed to disrespect me in any way and get away with it“, is another belief of mine. “Pass yu place with me, and I am out the door my friend!

Money dictates the quality of life that you live, and without money you cannot survive: that in itself is a true statement. Unfortunately, a lot of times we make less money -even though we might do the same quality, and quantity of work as a man in the workplace.

This then leads you to perhaps marry for stability, to ensure that you will live comfortably. Money does not make you happy, so don’t ever throw in the towel and settle with a man just because he is financially stable. Great if you find, and love someone who is wealthy and you two have decided to make a life together. However, succumbing to fear and marrying for money while you stare at your dwindling bank account is not the answer.

Have you ever seen those wealthy women, driving around in Bentleys, with Gucci handbags, butler and all, who no matter how much money they may have, they are not happy? They may often turn to the bottle, drugs, infidelity and worse, just to fill a void. Do you think that it is just boredom why they act out in such a way? No, it is not! It is their inner voices telling them that they perhaps do not deserve what they have, and have not worked for it.

Have you ever seen those wealthy women, driving around in Bentleys, with Gucci handbags, butler and all, who no matter how much money they may have, they are not happy? They may often turn to the bottle, drugs, infidelity and worse, just to fill a void. Do you think that it is just boredom why they act out in such a way? No, it is not! It is their inner voices telling them that they perhaps do not deserve what they have, and have not worked for it.

Some men will also use this to their advantage in order to gain the upper hand in a relationship. Recently, while in a deep conversation with a male acquaintance (let’s just call him Donovan), he openly stated that it was his belief that some women were “only attracted to him for his material things and of course the condo that he lived in“. “Mi know that is because a lot of women like the fact that I have a condo, so that is why they are latching themselves unto me,” he candidly stated. “They are like leeches,” he disgustingly added.

I laughed out loud in disbelief, and in so doing, I almost choked on the water that I was drinking at the time. I, of course, then decided to challenge Donovan’s ignorance and his obvious stupidity. “Now, if you were Brad Pitt, Denzel Washington or even Barack Obama, I could certainly understand your vile statement,” I said to him in the strictest tone. “However, you are none of these men, so therefore your condo statement makes no sense to me. Plus which honey, I have met Denzel and other rich, famous men, and I am still not impressed much by any man’s material things or worldly goods: not even theirs.” I think that shut him up for a minute or two at least!

The other thing to consider is that, with your own money, you will have the control of your own life. You will not be left prey to men who wish to only use you for sexual pleasures. They are less likely to treat you with disrespect, as you are seen as their equal, someone to be reckoned with.

Even if you are a married woman, find something that allows you to be financially independent. You never know what might happen in the future, right? With this extra income, you will walk faster, stand more proudly and be more independent. You are able to provide for your children on your own, if it ever comes down to that. The amount of women that I have met in the past who depend on their husbands for financial support is staggering and disheartening.

Persuaded by many to write a book, Sandy began working on “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” and has not looked back since. The book which has many tongues a wagging, not only because of its title, but also its contents and the issues surrounding women, as detailed by Sandy, has received rave reviews. She has travelled to New York, Barbados, Jamaica, Boston, Los Angeles and Michigan, during the last two years promoting her book.

Persuaded by many to write a book, Sandy began working on “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” and has not looked back since. The book which has many tongues a wagging, not only because of its title, but also its contents and the issues surrounding women, as detailed by Sandy, has received rave reviews. She has travelled to New York, Barbados, Jamaica, Boston, Los Angeles and Michigan, during the last two years promoting her book.

Better to be poor and in control of my own life,” is my motto for life, as no man can ever say to me that “I am in love with him because of a condo“, as “that don’t impress me much, baby!” The character of a man is what impresses me, and no condo, BMW or credit card will ever be enough to buy my love, or entice me enough to be with any man.

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  1. I totally agree with you. My grandmother was 95 and that was her motto. She made sure that all of us adopt that motto and she would always say “hold you head high”. Always remember the Character of the person is what makes that person not his wealth.Bacause wealth dwindles. But Character is from within. Bajan Roots.

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