RELATIONSHIPS with Sandy Daley – “Choice is a Powerful Thing: Use it Wisely!”
W. Clement Stone wisely wrote, “You always do what you want to do. This is true with every act. You may say that you had to do something, or that you were forced to, but actually whatever you do, you do by choice. Only you have the power to choose for yourself.”
This quote, so simple but so very powerful, has allowed me to wonder if I am truly making use of all the opportunities in front of me. Was my choice to remain single, happy, and content, to do whatever I really wanted to, doing me any good or justice? Darn it, was too much choice ruining my life?
As human beings we are taught to protect ourselves from situations that are supposedly not good for us: and I must admit that I am no different from the next man. Many of us settle and not go for the one that our hearts desire: that man that makes our knees shake at the thought of being close to him, or for that job that we really want.
“But Sandy, you do know that most people really settle in their lives at the end of the day,” my girlfriend Marissa said to me recently. “I know that you are going to be mad with me, but I am still dating Donovan, even though he cheated on me last year,” she also added. “I am baffled by your actions,” I said to her with a hint of disgust I might add. “You know that the man is trouble and does not deserve one minute of your time, and still yet you continue to see this man who means you no good. Is it because you feel that you have no choice in the matter, and that you won’t find somebody good in the end?” I asked.
“You might have hit the nail on the head,” she said to me, almost apologetically. “I will just take my time with him this time around and see where it goes. If he wants to see me, he knows where I am. I am not taking any plane or car to meet him halfway. Mr. Hot and Cold (as I loved to call him) will have to show me what he really wants,” she continued to add. “As long as yu know that he is a bad bwoy,” I said. “Why yu caan sekkle with a nice little carpenter man eh?” I queried.
I knew that deep down, that I had hit the nail right on the head! Okay, so Marissa’s Mr. Hot and Cold was a bad boy, but the fact remains that he was her “bad boy“! At the end of the day, we must remember that we have the right to choose who we love or don’t love, who we wish to spend our lives with or not, or even what we decide to wear to work that day.
So, I might be wrong and next week, I might be right back here lamenting on the troubles of my own Mr. Hot and Cold, but therein lies my point: the choice still remains in my hands. As long as I can muster up the courage, I will tackle all the issues, situations, loves or desires that I choose to. I, and everyone else in this world, am entitled to their own individual choices, whether or not the world agrees with them.
Only the Lord up above as I say, has the right to tell me what to do, as his voice is the only one that listen to. I will not “settle” for the carpenter because it is a safe choice. Choice my friends, is a powerful thing: use it wisely.