RELATIONSHIPS with Sandy Daley – “A Man’s Job is to be The Hunter: You are his Prey!”

Okay, so you have had a great date, he seems like a wonderful man and you think that he is “the one“. You can see him as the father of your future children and the love of your life. You go home and are all gushy and in love, and you call him and tell him in your sweetest voice, “what a wonderful time you had.” Only problem though, is that he never calls you back and does not even send you a text or an e-mail. With technology these days, there is just no excuse. If he has not called or “Facebooked” you, get the point my friend; he is not that interested.

Persuaded by many to write a book, Sandy began working on "Whose Vagina Is It, Really?" and has not looked back since. The book which has many tongues a wagging, not only because of its title, but also its contents and the issues surrounding women, as detailed by Sandy, has received rave reviews. She has travelled to New York, Barbados, Jamaica, Boston, Los Angeles and Michigan, during the last two years promoting her book. Dubbed by many as "The Black Carrie Bradshaw", Sandy continues to pour her heart into her work, honored by the title, but never wishing to ride on anyone's frock tails.

Persuaded by many to write a book, Sandy began working on “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” and has not looked back since. The book which has many tongues a wagging, not only because of its title, but also its contents and the issues surrounding women, as detailed by Sandy, has received rave reviews. She has travelled to New York, Barbados, Jamaica, Boston, Los Angeles and Michigan, during the last few years promoting her book. Dubbed by many as “The Black Carrie Bradshaw“, Sandy continues to pour her heart into her work, honored by the title, but never wishing to ride on anyone’s frock tails.

Women tend to try to force the issue with a man. Okay, so you like him a lot and you have already picked out your bridesmaid dresses and your drapes for your house in the suburbs. Unfortunately, he has not! So you “will” yourself (and him, too), to let this dream of yours come true. But he has not even called once to at least begin the actual baby-making and family-building process.

You don’t need a crystal ball or a psychologist to tell you what is going on. Men are very simple creatures, and if they like you, they will find you, no matter where in the world you are. Your job is not to make it easier for him by picking up the phone and calling him constantly, like the stalker girlfriend of his nightmares. You do not have to tell him “what a great time you had” and “when are you two going to get together again?” That is the last thing you should do, even if you want to desperately.

But Sandy, suppose I really, really like the guy?” you ask. “Do I just ignore him and pretend that I don’t?” Of course not! Your intention is to let him do the chasing as we say, and allow him to court you: like in the olden days. The one thing that you are not is “desperate“. Not because you are trying not to seem desperate, but because you really are not. The difference between you and the other women, who are constantly trying to win his attention, is that you don’t need him to succeed and to thrive.

{IMAGE VIA - communities.washingtontimes.com} There is no pretense in this statement, as the only things that should be on your mind are your career, your family, and your well-being. Finding the right man is like finding the right shoe; they are all so pretty and shiny, but they don't all fit! Your man should fit into your world, not you into his. From my experience with men (and there have been a few), I have surmised that men will take and take and take, until you have no more to give: if you allow them to.

{IMAGE VIAcommunities.washingtontimes.com} There is no pretense in this statement, as the only things that should be on your mind are your career, your family, and your well-being. Finding the right man is like finding the right shoe; they are all so pretty and shiny, but they don’t all fit! Your man should fit into your world, not you into his. From my experience with men (and there have been a few), I have surmised that men will take and take and take, until you have no more to give: if you allow them to.

You have to put your foot down from the very beginning if you want your prospective man to know that you are not at his beck and call. You do this by not making yourself available for him whenever he wants, and by not calling him constantly, as if your day depended upon his voice. Men pick up on desperation, so don’t act like a desperate woman! So instead of sitting by the phone waiting for his call, get busy with your own life so that he has to wonder how he is ever going to fit into it.

He should be working over-time to get to you and wondering where you are, not the other way around. It is common knowledge that there are more single women than single men, so make sure that he knows that he has an independent woman who can stand on her own two feet if need be. You do not need a man, you might want one, but you don’t need one.

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