RELATIONSHIPS with Sandy Daley: “Rebounding quickly after each breakup is never wise!”
Celebrities such as Jennifer Anniston, Halle Berry, Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian, just to name a few, never seem to be without a man for a long period of time. These beautiful, wealthy and successful women, unfortunately also seem to attract dysfunctional and abusive situations and relationships.
The fight resulted in Aubry being arrested at the home for assault, and although he will not face court proceedings in regards to this incident, he has however been placed on notice by the prosecutors, and will be charged formally if he does violate the law in the future. Obviously, none of us were actually there to see what transpired at the time of the incident, but it is my belief that Ms. Berry and other celebs, never take the time that is needed to learn from their past mistakes, and are always in some form of rebound situation.
Everyday women such as you and I, are often left pondering, “Well, if these beautiful, rich and highly famous ladies cannot keep or do without a man, what then should I do?” The problem here is that not only are we trained to think that our lives and well-being are dependent on our having a man in our lives, but it is often times seen as a failure if we don’t. Oftentimes that pressure comes directly from our very own friends and family members.
“So Sandy, you don’t want to get married,” is what I often hear. “You, mean that you cannot find a nice guy to settle down with? It’s not as if you have a tree growing in your face or anything,” my girlfriends mock me lovingly. I often totally avoid the question, as I truly become frustrated trying to explain my views on relationships. “When the Lord is good and ready, he will send my Mr. Right (if there is such a thing),” I sheepishly will reply. “Till then, I am great just the way how I am.”
Women are told that “God created a man for a woman and a woman for a man.” This in biblical terms might be true, but what if no one acts in such a manly way, in order for me to truly be special and submissive to him? It is my belief that a man is the head of my household and should act accordingly, but what do you if your mate is not stepping up to the plate as he should as your so-called man? Do you still run to every Tom, Dick or Harry because he might have a tom, dick or harry between his legs? Finding a Mr. Right is not a problem, as a man will forever desire a woman, but finding the true Mr. Right is the issue!
There are many women in unhealthy relationships, and unfortunately they cannot see this, as their only thought is to “be in a relationship.” The thought of being alone, even for a short space of time, is such an issue for many women, that they often end up in situations that they would have never been in-if only they were willing to stop and focus on themselves for a time being. So what do you do if you find yourself alone and without a man for awhile? Instead of going out to the clubs every weekend, with the hopes of finding your Mr. Right at the bar, sipping on a champagne bottle, in a pink and grey suit that he bought from Wal-Mart, use the time wisely and allow yourself to heal properly. The one thing that you also must remember is that men pick up on desperation, and the more desperate you are, the more difficult and heart-breaking situations you will find yourself in.
So, deal with your issues, as we all have them! Dealing with one’s issues allows you to really get to know yourself, and what makes you tick as a human being. This will then allow you to make better choices for yourself, as you continue to search for your Mr. Right! When you truly know what you are worth, and are truly in touch with your inner being, then and only then will you fully grasp the concept that a relationship should never hurt-but should enhance both you and your partner.